My Child Say He's Gay: What Should I Do?

Help! My Child Just Told Me He is Gay

Many parents are faced with this declaration and have no idea what to do. Their faith leaves them totally guessing as to how they should react to such an announcement. Do they abandon their child? Do they abandon their beliefs? Both of these are extremes that parents often take. A parent needs to know how they should respond to their …

I’m Going Back to Work

Since the recent attacks on our ministry began, we have received record numbers of requests for help from our ministry. The exposure that our enemies hoped would bring our demise has actually brought about good—God always wins. There was a time when I thought the loony left would be the ones who would viciously attack us, but instead it is …

How A Pastor’s Daughter Was Helped

Below is a letter we received from a young lady who read our book. It is encouraging to see how God works. Not long ago, I found myself at the end of my rope. I knew Jesus, but I didn’t know what to do. I was involved in a same sex relationship, and I didn’t want it to end. My …

Why is Christianity Losing the Gay Marriage Debate?

  This question is on the minds of many Christians today.  Have you ever wondered how Jesus would answer such a question about gay marriage?  As Christians, it would wise for us to think in these terms: “what would Jesus say?”   Think for a moment, would Jesus perhaps answer the original question with another question?  Consider this, why should …

How Do You Love Those Who Are Gay?

One morning after I had preached on loving your neighbor, two ladies approached me to ask how they could love their gay neighbors. They said, “We do not know how to love them without condoning their lifestyle, but we cannot compromise on our beliefs.” Many Christians face a similar dilemma. We know that we ought to love our neighbors, and …

7 Things You Didn’t Know About Eunuchs

Pastor, they are sitting in your pews every week. They are men and women in your church who have remained single. Some have done so out of the consecration to the Lord. Others, however, were born without an attraction to the opposite sex. Their singleness is the result of accepting that God-given uniqueness. These are the eunuchs who were born …

How Can Churches Help Those Choosing To Remain Unmarried?

If there is one ministry that suffers in many churches, it is the ministry to those who are unmarried. These churches either have a lack of emphasis, a lack of organization, or an identity problem with this demographic. Let’s examine all three of these before delving into the solution. Many churches have expected the majority of their graduates to go …

Pastor, I Think I’m Gay

Who would have thought just a few years ago that we would face such moral decay and decline like today? The sexual conflict has caused confusion, compromise, and debate in our society. Even worse, the debate has spilled over into our churches. I must confess that, until recently, I had no idea how to deal with those struggling in this area. Fortunately, …

Why Am I Different?

She was raised in a Christian home. Not only was it a Christian home but her father was the pastor of her church. She attended Sunday school every Sunday morning from the time she was a little child. She went to training Union on Sunday nights. She sang in the children’s choirs and then the youth choirs of the church. …

It’s Not Really About the Mind

Everywhere you turn people are talking about the battle over the mind. Truthfully, it isn’t the mind where the battle begins for the Christian. That is a semi-Buddhist philosophy, and it is true for someone who is not a Christian. For believers, however, it is not the mind where the battle takes place. Don’t misunderstand: the mind is very important. Nevertheless, …

Using Homosexuality to Excuse Our Own Sin

There is a pervasive fear among many Christians. They fear that reaching out with love to help a sinner will, in some way, excuse the sin of that sinner. This is not true. The purpose of reaching out to a sinner and providing love and grace is not to justify, excuse, or ignore the sin, but to provide them with hope. Hope …

3 Things You Should Never Say to the Unmarried

Try being an attractive, outgoing, unmarried adult in a modern church and not have your singleness as a topic of conversation. It is nearly impossible! You will find yourself either trying to justify your singleness or trying to avoid the matchmakers in the church. Why is it like this? It is because our church culture has nearly idolized marriage. Most …

The Unmarried Valentine

It’s that time of year again: plastic red hearts and roses are everywhere while radio and TV ads for jewelry and chocolates broadcast daily. Couples exchange cards, candy, gifts or flowers and everyone seems to have a special “someone” to share it all with. Love is supposed to permeate every wisp of air while naked cherub babies dance and play mad …

Happier Unmaried

Happier Unmarried

Sitting with a preacher last week, he asked, “Why is it strange when a person has no interest in marriage? The apostle Paul said that remaining unmarried can be the better choice—even the happier one—so why is it the weird choice?” This preacher has a habit of asking such questions: they make me think he’s crazy at first, but he always ends up making a valid point. …

Marriage: It’s Not What You May Think

What if marriage is not all about love, companionship, and sex, but was designed as something more glorious? Marriage is often portrayed as less than it truly is. Like the three blind men striving to describe an elephant by touch—one describing it by the legs, another by its trunk, and the third by its tail—we also often describe marriage by its …

I Am Not a Heterosexual

Hello, I am a Christian pastor, and I am not a heterosexual.  Those are often my first words to a person who is in the gay community. It is fascinating to see the surprise in their eyes (and the walls that crumble down). Most people have labeled themselves long before I meet them. Many choose to place upon themselves the label of “gay” …

Dealing with Guilt From Sexual Sins

There is a barrier that often stands between the child of God and the Heavenly Father, disturbing a perfect relationship. It is a hindrance to many people who have gone deep into sexual sin. Sadly many are plagued by it, yet do not know how to deal with it. It is called guilt. First of all, let us understand that …

What a Cheeseburger Taught Me About Sin

My favorite fast food restaurant serves a triple cheeseburger. I love that. Anything that tastes good can’t be too bad, right? Well the real reason I love the triple cheeseburger is because it makes me feel better when I order only the double cheeseburger. I make myself feel better by comparing my choice to that of people ordering the triple—or …

The Unmarried: Incomplete or Incompatible?

As an unmarried woman missionary, I am often given flack for not having a husband on the field. Why can’t people just let you serve God in whatever ministry to which He calls you? Why can’t they be happy with what God has allowed you to accomplish while you are faithfully unmarried? Most Christians today expect you to get married, start …

Christian Bullies & Sexual Impurity

There Is No Excuse for Being a Bully In Luke 4, Jesus preached in the synagogue on the Sabbath day. What He said was amazing, but what He didn’t say was even more astonishing. He stood before a whole group of well-educated Jewish theologians and quoted from Isaiah 61. Jesus said: The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because …