3 Things You Should Never Say to the Unmarried

Try being an attractive, outgoing, unmarried adult in a modern church and not have your singleness as a topic of conversation. It is nearly impossible! You will find yourself either trying to justify your singleness or trying to avoid the matchmakers in the church. Why is it like this? It is because our church culture has nearly idolized marriage. Most …

The Unmarried Valentine

It’s that time of year again: plastic red hearts and roses are everywhere while radio and TV ads for jewelry and chocolates broadcast daily. Couples exchange cards, candy, gifts or flowers and everyone seems to have a special “someone” to share it all with. Love is supposed to permeate every wisp of air while naked cherub babies dance and play mad …

Happier Unmaried

Happier Unmarried

Sitting with a preacher last week, he asked, “Why is it strange when a person has no interest in marriage? The apostle Paul said that remaining unmarried can be the better choice—even the happier one—so why is it the weird choice?” This preacher has a habit of asking such questions: they make me think he’s crazy at first, but he always ends up making a valid point. …

Marriage: It’s Not What You May Think

What if marriage is not all about love, companionship, and sex, but was designed as something more glorious? Marriage is often portrayed as less than it truly is. Like the three blind men striving to describe an elephant by touch—one describing it by the legs, another by its trunk, and the third by its tail—we also often describe marriage by its …

The Unmarried: Incomplete or Incompatible?

As an unmarried woman missionary, I am often given flack for not having a husband on the field. Why can’t people just let you serve God in whatever ministry to which He calls you? Why can’t they be happy with what God has allowed you to accomplish while you are faithfully unmarried? Most Christians today expect you to get married, start …